Finding Happy - Letting Go Of Grief

Hi there! Monique Bradley here with this weeks VLOG: Letting Go Of Grief.

This weeks topic is: 'Release. Have a good cry. Grief is a doorway to your deepest self.'

Many of the people I work alongside, coach or train are held back by an old self belief or some form of grief at the loss of a loved one, a decision that resulted in less than favourable consequences or a lost opportunity. I know from my own experience of losing my father when I was 18 that grief affects us in a variety of different ways. For me at the time my coping mechanism was comedy. I didn't know how to process people's messages of sympathy so would often reply with a comedic response to lighten their own depth of despair or to lighten mine.

A lot of hypnotherapy is about accessing positive and resourceful states to help you be more healthy, happy and successful.  There are simple ways you can influence your biochemistry to feel less stress and boost your mood.  One of these is smiling.

WE KNOW SMILING IS GOOD, BUT WHAT GOES ON OUTSIDE OUR CONSCIOUS AWARENESS WHEN WE SMILE?

Smiling produces changes in brain activity that corresponds to a happier mood.  It activates our limbic system – the part of our brain responsible for processing emotions.

 Nowhere Girl - my journey back to NOW

Over the last few weeks, it’s felt like I’ve been on a roller coaster ride.  We dropped Shaylah our daughter off to University, which she was soooo excited about.  I came home and Sharma our other daughter was staying at her boyfriend’s loads.

I started to feel kinda empty.  One moment I was happy, the next I was crying my eyes out.  Many people told me I had Empty Nest Syndrome.  I could definitely relate!

The cool thing about going through this bumpy ride was, I got to revaluate my life and discover I was living a lot of it through and for my children.

I was an overweight/obese child born into a big family of big people. I was tested at a young age for developmental issues as I was a huge child and at 18 months couldn’t walk. They found nothing wrong with my brain and even at that stage the odds were stacked against me. My parent’s were told (especially as they were both hugely overweight) that ‘Elephants don’t produce mice…’