Finding Happy VLOG - Top Tips To Boost Your Confidence

This video, presented by Monique Bradley discusses tips on how to boost your confidence, success and happiness! In this VLOG Monique - a professional speaker and personal empowerment coach - discusses the effects being confident can have in your life and success and shares her tips that you can use to boost your own personal empowerment.

Here's a transcript:

In my work as a presenter and empowerment coach, I often hear stories of those who are lacking in confidence, who feel unable to speak up for themselves, define their personal boundaries or even say no. I’ve even been that person myself as I struggled for years with confidence issues and low self esteem. So I thought today I would share my tips that I developed to help myself feel good and get out there again!

Firstly, there’s a difference between people who are out-going or extrovert and those who are actually confident and this is often confused. For example, I’m a competent speaker and in my last 20 years of professional speaking and performance, this was actually masking my lack of confidence and understanding of my own value. Often extrovert people carry as much of a lack of confidence as introverts.

True confidence or empowerment comes from knowing who you are and being proud of it. By ‘not letting the voices of others drown out your own inner voice’ a quote that was beautifully delivered by the late Steve Jobs.

In fact, if you’re looking for tips to build your own personal power, get ready my friends, because here’s the tips I use every day.

1. Learn to say NO. How many times have you agreed to something for the sake of others? How many times have you said yes, even though an action or event goes against your values or jars your integrity? How many times have you been afraid to rock the boat? Or haven’t said NO when you really wanted to for fear of being dis-liked? News flash friends, if someones going to dis-like you, thats their choice. Isn’t it better that you like yourself first. At the end of the day, the biggest judge you need to face up to is the one looking back at you in the mirror. Empowered and confident people make choices that positively affect their life, their wellness and align with their core values and beliefs. AND saying no most often opens the door to yes. How do I know? I do it all the time. Respect yourself and learn to say NO at the right time and mean it! It’s a fantastic way to define your boundaries and people respect you more once they know where you stand with YOU.

2. Why put off till tomorrow, what you can do today?? Often people align their success with the prospect of ‘When I get this job….or when I lose weight…..Or when we shift….everything will be different’. Well, what if it’s not? What if the big life changes you are looking for could be happening now, propelling you forward to where you want to be? Often we put the big life changes that we want to make or let our happiness lie somewhere in the future. What if you made choices TODAY? Instead of eating a chocolate bar, grab a piece of fruit for example. It will give you the same energy hit, load you with fantastic nutrients and instead of shedding kilos in the future to get that bikini body, you are looking after your body NOW! Why wait till monday? Make one conscious choice today and feel your power instantly rise!

3. Face your fear. This is a little bit like the last point of putting something off until tomorrow. The longer you wait to go to the dentist for example, the bigger trauma you actually create in your mind. I know this as I’ve had huge anxiety leading up to dentistry and yet, when I’m there it’s just a short amount of discomfort compared to the weeks or months of inner terror. Face your fear and conquer it!

4. Define your identity. One of the biggest confidence boosters for me was actually learning about my inherent personality traits and how my ability to speak in front of people - as an example - actually had value! For most of the last 35 + years, I’ve been trying to work with processes, or buying and selling, or being a people connector and wondering why this has never lead to the financial success that it has for others. Learning that my strengths lie in my ability educate, inspire, my creativity and communication has been incredibly valuable for my confidence as finally all the skills I have are being utilised AND help other people too.

5. Make time for YOU. Putting yourself first may seem selfish or self absorbed for some people, however even in the safety message on the aeroplanes, they tell you that if an oxygen mask falls down in front of you that you must put your on first before helping anyone else. Looking after yourself first gives you more energy, activates your self respect and the people around you start to notice. Statistically people who are well groomed, who smell good and take care of themselves earn more money, experience more success and have greater health and at the end of the day, don’t we all want that??

Developing confidence and your sense of personal power is about realising your potential, celebrating your uniqueness and maximising on your awesomeness. If you’re confident in yourself, you’ll make better conscious choices, you’ll set goals, you’ll know your limits and boundaries and respect them, as well as making a better positive impact on the world. So start with one behaviour: learn to say no, work towards your goal TODAY, face your fear, learn about your identity or make time for YOU and feel your confidence and your happiness levels instantly rise!!
YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Monique Bradley (BA) was first published at the age of 12 and is a multi award winning actor, singer, children's entertainer and MC and has delivered lectures in the power of conscious language choices, communication styles, the benefits of storytelling for early childhood development and educates people in learning about their own personality strengths. Monique is also a spokesperson for the website www.depression.org.nz Monique and partner Pete Ward are the creators of the GET A LIFE platform - a website designed to help those who are interested in writing their new life story, just like they did. www.getalife.net.nz
Monique and Pete are also the brains behind STARLIGHT MEDIA HOUSE: The story people, helping you tell your story.
www.starlightmediahouse.co.nz
AND you can find their stories in music form:
www.straydogs.co.nz

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Finding Happy - Love And Happiness

Finding Happy - Being Kind To Yourself

Goal Setting And Its Effects on Happiness